Usually, I have found woodworking to be very therapuetic. However with the loss of my wife this week, I am finding the idea not only not therapuetic, but DANGEROUS.
I am on the middle / younger side age wise of this crowd, and my wifes departure was wholly unexpected, and honestly just wrong. Just a freak thing in life. But I have talked to older relatives and they tell me they experienced the same thing, and nobody warned them ahead of time, so I am warning you. Whether you have been married 50 years, or not yet there, if life, the universe, God whatever decides to take your spouse from you, there is something to watch for. And it doesn't hit everyone, but it hits most...
It's called "widow brain" so much for gender equality but there it is, and it is a specific kind of brain fog that is very abnormal.
It comes and goes in waves, and you can't tell when it is going to hit you.
You easily lose track of your train of thought when you are speaking to somone, you literally lose what you are saying mid sentence.
You hear, but don't comprehend what is being said. It is like listening to adults in Peanuts cartoons...
You can literally forget what you were doing while you are doing it.
The last point is where the danger comes in. Going room to room to pick things up is one thing, going into the workshop and operating a power saw is a totally different ball of wax.
Can you imagine pushing the board through and forgetting to switch over to the push block in time?
So my encouragement is even if you think it might help you out, the risks are too great. Wait until the fog clears.
That way your neices and nephews won't have to call you uncle stumpy.
I am on the middle / younger side age wise of this crowd, and my wifes departure was wholly unexpected, and honestly just wrong. Just a freak thing in life. But I have talked to older relatives and they tell me they experienced the same thing, and nobody warned them ahead of time, so I am warning you. Whether you have been married 50 years, or not yet there, if life, the universe, God whatever decides to take your spouse from you, there is something to watch for. And it doesn't hit everyone, but it hits most...
It's called "widow brain" so much for gender equality but there it is, and it is a specific kind of brain fog that is very abnormal.
It comes and goes in waves, and you can't tell when it is going to hit you.
You easily lose track of your train of thought when you are speaking to somone, you literally lose what you are saying mid sentence.
You hear, but don't comprehend what is being said. It is like listening to adults in Peanuts cartoons...
You can literally forget what you were doing while you are doing it.
The last point is where the danger comes in. Going room to room to pick things up is one thing, going into the workshop and operating a power saw is a totally different ball of wax.
Can you imagine pushing the board through and forgetting to switch over to the push block in time?
So my encouragement is even if you think it might help you out, the risks are too great. Wait until the fog clears.
That way your neices and nephews won't have to call you uncle stumpy.
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