can anyone here explain women to me?

[durango dude]

I try to explain to her that sawdust is protective in nature - that it's not going to ruin my tools (yeah - I sweep up often - and yes, I usually clean off my hand tools and put them away).

No - don't organize my drill bits by length ---- they're organized by thickness.
(same thing with my chisels, thanks).

Yes - I do need two combination squares - don't put the smaller one in the yard sale bin because you see I have a bigger one. In fact, the smaller one is better than the bigger one!

Yes - there's sawdust on my scroll saw and jointer. --- I know about it. They do, too - and they don't really care.

My outfeed table is not a good place for tomato starters.......

Those little pieces of wood sitting in a pile are shims - they're not trash.

No, there's no such thing as junk wood.

[dbhost]

WARNING: The following is not likely to help your marriage stay healthy! Read the following tongue in cheek only, if you put this to use, and she either kicks your butt, or divorces you, you have only yourself to blame...

Mistake #1. Letting her into the shop without a thorough orientation.
Mistake #2. Not returning the favor with her makeup, hair stuff, shoes, or blouses... I.E.

Why doesn't she organize her lipstick tubes by size and shape?
Why not put her eyeliner in the yard sale and leave her with the biggest one?

The problem is one of perspective. Unless she too enjoys woodworking, the wood shop should be a "man cave", and allowed to be what is in her perspective, as dusty, dirty, nasty and disorganized as you need it to be. We know better. That dust protects stuff, the drill bits should be organized just the way they are thank you very much. Yes I need more than a few clamps, yes I need multiple squares etc... It should be a place where once the power tools are turned off, you can fart, watch Benny Hill, or sports, or Terminator movies, and drink beer to your hearts content. YOU should be able to find exactly what you need to do the work at hand, when you need it, without having to take her stuff off, or out of a work surface or area.

And if that fails, and she likes to sew, maybe you can start putting your glue ups on her sewing machine table... Hey if her tomato starters are in your shop why not?

END OF WARNING AREA.

Now on a more serious note. If she is all that reasonable. Just let her know that things are the way they are in your shop because you set them up that way, so you can more easily, and SAFELY make the things she likes having around the house... Put it in terms of her benefit, and you will score serious points, not to mention most likely come out ahead in the game.

For the most part, a little dust isn't a bad thing, but a lot of dust and shavings everywhere, and she might have a legit reason to fuss at you... If you don't have one yet, get one of those brush ends for your shop vac. They do wonders for cleaning fine dust off of stuff...

[Cochese]

No, and anyone who claims they can is selling something.

[cabinetman]

I'm just guessing, but they are hard to explain because they are the ones given a uterus.

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[tommyt654]

Dad tried to explain things to me 1 time about women, we popped the tops on a coupla cold beers and he said " FERGETABOUIT"

[chopnhack]

If you understand them, chances are you are one of them

[cabinetman]

If you understand them, chances are you are one of them

That's pretty simple...it's "us" and "them".

.

[toolguy1000]

just before i got married, my dad told me there were two things every man should know about woman............
















































AND NO ONE KNOWS WHAT THEY ARE!!!

[Knottscott]

Repeat after me...."yes dear".

[greenacres2]

Our pastor quoted someone in his lesson last Sunday...

"I don't want to understand women. Women understand women, and they can't get along with each other."

Might have been a Mark Twain statement--but honestly i can't recall...i should pay better attention!!

earl

[TB Roye]

Just quote the above statement to my Wife She said what don't you understand? then said you read too much into it. This as I get ready to spend my 30TH night in the guest room.





Mainly because we have both have had colds are trying to get over them or not trading them back and forthl. She gets terrible colds that a made worse by her COPD and her constant coughing.

Tom

[sparkeyjames]

It's all in how you play with the knobs.

[Pappy]

There are numerous stratagies that can be applied during an argument with a woman...

NONE OF WHICH WORK!

[JimD]

My late wife did not like my workshop in our Pittsburgh house. It was the front of the 28 feet deep garage. I did not clean up a lot so there was sawdust on the floor most of the time. She liked the results of my mess but she did not like the mess. She never tried to clean it up, however, or make suggestions on organization - at least that I remember. When we moved to SC, we wanted a house with a separate shop area. That resulted in a house with a basement for a second garage (with it's own driveway). We were happy with the decision and I still am. She didn't have to look at my mess daily.

My fiancee is not a resident of my house yet, just a frequent visitor. She wants to change what will be our bedroom and I have agreed. We may eventually build "our house" but probably not until her girls finish college, about 5 years. She enjoys fixing up houses including some woodworking. She rebuilt the deck on her house. We have not tried any projects together yet but I am optomistic that having a somewhat skilled helper will be great. At the worst, it will be like my late wife and I will not have a helper. I can't stand somebody who knows little making "suggestions" that are distracting and not at all useful. Comments from somebody who knows something (like my son) are good things. My late wife could never understand how little she knew and that I just wanted her to do EXACTLY what I asked without comments. So she didn't help.

We like to joke about women but anybody we live with in the sort of close relationship of a marriage is going to frustrate us sometimes - as we do them. One of the scary things about getting married again is having to learn all the little things that my late wife and I learned in almost 29 years. We'll get there but it takes time to understand each other - and it is a never ending process.

Jim

[TB Roye]

On the3 26Th of this month it will be 47 years and I still don't understand her. She leave the shop and Garage alone and doesn't complain. My biggest issue with her is her negativity, She isn't happy unless she can find something to complain about. My brother in law and I spent a year bluilding cabinets for our kitchens and laid .350 sqft of tile in my kitchen and Sun room beside the tile backsplash and Granite counter tops. She had choices on every thing. When it was all done she said it was beautiful but and found something she wished was different. She is one of those people that won't allow herself to be happy. Sometimes she pays a price for it. I do what I can to please her but it has to please me also or it doesn't get done. I need the self satisfaction and then I can live with what ever.

Tom