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  • radhak
    Veteran Member
    • Apr 2006
    • 3061
    • Miramar, FL
    • Right Tilt 3HP Unisaw

    #1

    I need a punching bag

    preferably one that's not alive, and not married to me; filled with cement would do fine...

    This has to do with the bathroom faucets I was replacing. LOML and I had bought two Peerless faucets together from Lowes a month ago - I wanted to ensure she got whatever she wanted. I had found her choice a bit plain and would have preferred a bit snazzier, or at least brighter; but she preferred brushed nickel. I had shown preference for a single handle instead of two, being easier for the kids, and she did not protest, so we bought a pair of 'brushed nickel' single handle faucets.

    After so many weeks, I finally installed them yesterday as I had the day off. My daughter helped and even got under the sink to apply the white tape on the threads.

    Right after we are done, while I am trying to clean up the caulk from my hands, LOML walks in, takes a sharp look and declares - "Naah - doesn't look good at all"!

    Me (in a bit of shock) - er, whaat? She - ' that finish looks too plain, and I never liked that single handle' !! <then of course she says, "but I shouldn't say anything now that you have installed them", and walks away> !!!

    I pondered for a mere 60 seconds - this would have never gone away. This was in the master, and she'd walk in daily for months or years and be grumpy about it. Luckily my daughter had gone to play; I quickly reached in and de-installed both the faucets. The caulk had not yet dried and the nuts/bolts were still fresh and smooth, so I was done in a few minutes. Spent the next half hour cleaning up all the parts and re-packaging them.

    Then asked her and the girls to join me; went back to Lowes, returned the faucets - I explained to the manager that I had installed and un-installed them. He looked them over and remarked that they were in as-good-as-new condition and he had seen much worse returned goods !

    Went to the faucet aisle where I simply said, just pick whichever you want, and I'm good. Would you believe she again picked a brushed nickel finish? I looked at her and asked if she wanted to go thru all that again? She sensed that I was bottling up something she might not like, so she calls for second opinion - from the girls. And of course they chose the shiny chrome finish. I made sure LOML picked one with a fancy shape/curve that she said she 'always' wanted, and we were out before the store closed.

    Installation this morning was easier than the first time around - I had left all the connecters etc from before, so I had to just drop the faucets in. But of course this was a different company (American Standards) who had the new-fangled "no tool needed" installation, for which I had to replace the sink-downspout-plumbing, but I was still done in an hour.

    Anyway, like I said, I need a punching bag for times like these.
    It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.
    - Aristotle
  • cgallery
    Veteran Member
    • Sep 2004
    • 4503
    • Milwaukee, WI
    • BT3K

    #2
    I think you handled it very well. Sure, we'd all like our spouses to never second-guess their original decisions. But I think everyone is entitled to change their minds. At least you were able to return the other ones (kudos to the manager/marriage counselor for seeing the dynamics at play). And having the kids pick the finish was smart, they'll be happy because it is the one they selected.

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    • jackellis
      Veteran Member
      • Nov 2003
      • 2638
      • Tahoe City, CA, USA.
      • BT3100

      #3
      Our new home is just about finished (finally). I'm not sure we'll be thrilled with the "oiled bronze" light and bathroom fixtures but that's what we bought. I mostly let my wife choose what she wanted, knowing we might end up throwing it all out in a few years. A house full of fixtures ain't cheap, but it won't break us either.

      We all get steamed about stupids like this but believe me you both will (or should) get over it. It's just part of living with someone else.

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      • Uncle Cracker
        The Full Monte
        • May 2007
        • 7091
        • Sunshine State
        • BT3000

        #4
        With anything like that, you can take the article to the sink, drop it in place temporarily, and then get an endorsement from the boss... "Is this what you want, Honey? Good.. SIGN HERE"

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        • Kristofor
          Veteran Member
          • Jul 2004
          • 1331
          • Twin Cities, MN
          • Jet JTAS10 Cabinet Saw

          #5
          You're a better man than I am Gunga Radhak...

          I figure that my half of "ensuring the domestic tranquility" involves letting her select models/colors/etc. I'm even fine with her changing her mind as often as she wants before the wall is painted, the couch is purchased, etc. Her half of the bargain is living with whatever she picks for the natural life of the product in question (repaint in a few years, but I would expect a decade or better from a faucet).

          For me, once the caulk is in place the line has been crossed, but I assume/hope you earned major brownie points for going above and beyond!

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          • radhak
            Veteran Member
            • Apr 2006
            • 3061
            • Miramar, FL
            • Right Tilt 3HP Unisaw

            #6
            Originally posted by Uncle Cracker
            With anything like that, you can take the article to the sink, drop it in place temporarily, and then get an endorsement from the boss... "Is this what you want, Honey? Good.. SIGN HERE"
            Everytime, now on... !

            But I do think I came off okay from that - starting with not ranting at that moment but getting to remedy the situation. When I told her I had un-done that work and needed to get a replacement from the store, she was sorta taken aback, and asked, "isn't that a lot of work...?", and I just said, "nah, it's okay, let's go..."

            Because in the long run, it was not a lot of work...
            It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.
            - Aristotle

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            • dbhost
              Slow and steady
              • Apr 2008
              • 9523
              • League City, Texas
              • Ryobi BT3100

              #7
              Pretty close to the same thing happened with LOML and a set of polished brass / white ceramic handled Peerless faucets for the master bath. I mean these things are really pretty, and she LOVED them in the store, but as soon as I installed them the first words out of her mouth was...

              "Something's not right with those"...

              I told her to give them a couple of days and see if they grew one her, I kind of knew where the problem was...

              Off to HD again, and grabbed some nice white porcelain & polished brass towel rings, and then to WalMart for a nice polished brass bathroom accessory set... Install, set up. This was on Saturday with LOML running around with her sister. The original install was done Friday night. Saturday she comes home, and as soon as she walks into the master bath...

              "Wow, those really are growing on me! That looks great!"

              Took her three months to figure out what I did...
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              • dbhost
                Slow and steady
                • Apr 2008
                • 9523
                • League City, Texas
                • Ryobi BT3100

                #8
                Originally posted by radhak
                Everytime, now on... !

                But I do think I came off okay from that - starting with not ranting at that moment but getting to remedy the situation. When I told her I had un-done that work and needed to get a replacement from the store, she was sorta taken aback, and asked, "isn't that a lot of work...?", and I just said, "nah, it's okay, let's go..."

                Because in the long run, it was not a lot of work...
                Methinks you have the right perspective on keeping her happy. As the saying goes, if momma ain't happy, ain't no one happy...
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                • JR
                  The Full Monte
                  • Feb 2004
                  • 5636
                  • Eugene, OR
                  • BT3000

                  #9
                  I have absolutely no problem letting LOML decide these things. I just can't get her to decide.

                  A few ago I built a shelf for the kitcken. I had to rebuild it three or four times to get the grain to go in direction that satisfied her. A little frustrating, but I enjoyed the shop time and my biscuit joiner needed the exercise.

                  She had hinted that making choice on a CLEAR finish might be a challenge, so I put out several choices, with rags, applicators, scrap wood, drop cloth, and suggested she start on some comparisons. No progress after a couple of weeks.

                  Soooo, I did the comparison test. Several sections, a couple of coats, like in the mags. "Nice", say SWMBO. "Let's leave it in the sun for a MONTH!" (my emphasis added).

                  How can you take a month to make a decision? It's totally Venusian.

                  JR
                  JR

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                  • Mr__Bill
                    Veteran Member
                    • May 2007
                    • 2096
                    • Tacoma, WA
                    • BT3000

                    #10
                    You got off easy, she could have waited, fumed about it and in the middle of another discussion brought up those faucets she never liked that you put in! You at least got to return the rejects and finished the project to satisfaction.


                    Ahhhhh, unless she decides to not like the bright shinny chrome ones at some point in the future, and it's all your fault for replacing the brushed nickle ones.


                    Bill, on the Sunny Oregon Coast

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