So mad I could spit... I just need to rant guys and gals...

**Pappy** · 05-17-2009, 07:42 PM

Hopefully her part of the settelment will be a check she writes to him each month.

**Jim Frye** · 05-17-2009, 07:51 PM

understand...

My Brother-In-Law's first wife showed up one day with movers and divorced him. It was the best thing that could have happened for him, even after two decades of marriage. He is much better off and happier now (and remarried).

Time wounds all heels!

**dbhost** · 05-17-2009, 08:07 PM

I totally understand the being better off without the bad wife as it were. I am about 1000% better off with my lovely bride than with my former mistake...

The biggest thing that makes me mad about it is that she is choosing now, when his is just barely where he can be out of a hospital for more than a week, to do this. It takes a real piece of work to kick somebody when they are down like that.

**Ed62** · 05-17-2009, 08:17 PM

I agree that she could have picked a better time for something like that. It just doesn't seem right to do that when someone is down and out. She could have at least shown a little empathy, and waited until he has recovered.

Ed

**thestinker** · 05-17-2009, 08:54 PM

Wow...words can't express what a pathetic person she is for doing that to him. I hope karma pays out for her for this.

**Uncle Cracker** · 05-17-2009, 09:29 PM

When one door closes, another will open. This pathetic excuse for a person is obviously more concerned about finances than she is about her husband. Paybacks are a b!tch, and he will be much better off without this coward. Another girl will come along, and it is much more likely that she will have her head and heart in the right place.

**Russianwolf** · 05-18-2009, 07:34 AM

I'm slightly on the other side for this. There is never a right time for this. Yeah, it sucks that he is ill and recovering, but if unhappiness is in the marriage it will just work against him anyway, you simply can't hide it in my opinion. Now her reason for leaving, in my opinion isn't valid. The only reason you leave a marriage is that you don't love the person, or they are abusive. If you have love for one another, nothing else can stop you.

I've known two couple that were staying together "for the kids", then they wondered why their kids were having so many problems. Their kids knew that they couldn't stand each other any more and fought all the time. The kids were having sleeping issues and that led to other problems. Yes, it would suck if the parents divorced, but staying together wasn't helping the kids either.

**dbhost** · 05-18-2009, 07:46 AM

Originally posted by Russianwolf

I'm slightly on the other side for this. There is never a right time for this. Yeah, it sucks that he is ill and recovering, but if unhappiness is in the marriage it will just work against him anyway, you simply can't hide it in my opinion. Now her reason for leaving, in my opinion isn't valid. The only reason you leave a marriage is that you don't love the person, or they are abusive. If you have love for one another, nothing else can stop you.

I've known two couple that were staying together "for the kids", then they wondered why their kids were having so many problems. Their kids knew that they couldn't stand each other any more and fought all the time. The kids were having sleeping issues and that led to other problems. Yes, it would suck if the parents divorced, but staying together wasn't helping the kids either.

In a way I agree, in a way I don't...

Just because the "warm fuzzies" aren't there at any given time, doesn't mean a marriage is kaput...

LOTS of otherwise good marriages are tossed out the door because "I love you, but I'm not in love with you" reared its ugly head. Just because a fire dies down a little bit, doesn't mean it can't be stoked again into the fire that warms the entire home. To say that I just fell out of love is a lousy excuse and a prime example of a LAZY society where people and relationships are disposable...

IMHO, the only legitimate reasons to leave a marriage are what I have heard called the 3 A's...

Adultery, Abuse, and Abandonment.

A part of the conversation I missed last night apparently is that she just didn't think that if / when he got well, he would make the kind of money she wants...

In my book, she's nothing more than a high dollar prostitute.

**Gator95** · 05-18-2009, 08:20 AM

Originally posted by dbhost

Her excuse was that she couldn't take the pressure of being the only one of the couple to be earning a living.

If that's really the reason, then it's pathetic.

**SARGE..g-47** · 05-18-2009, 09:09 AM

Red Oak and Mahogany don't mix well. Perhaps the two species should have taken this into consideration before they decided to form a partner-ship as the results will usually always result in a split.

Without having lived or spent 24 hours a day in the lives of either over time I will not form a judgment as I feel this incident may just be the tip of the ice-berg showing and the main body is probably hidden below the surface.

Good luck to your BIL in both his physical and mental health. We all make mistakes and for numerous reasons but.. a mistake is a mistake and will eventually surface. The question was the timing appropriate? My view is there is no appropriate time really so accept the error and move on.

**eezlock** · 05-18-2009, 09:12 AM

need to rant

If I read your message correctly and I think that I did.....you said she is an attorney also. I will not say it here(how I feel about lawyers) but I think there is a special place reserved for them after they die, that is so miserably
hot and burning that the flames only get hotter and will never go out and it is waiting for them!

**jackellis** · 05-18-2009, 09:22 AM

My brother's second wife left him for a cardiologist - after he had raised her kids.

I agree that the only valid reasons for leaving are adultery, abandonment or abuse. Money is a stupid reason and it shows that the spouse isn't worth...never mind.

**Knottscott** · 05-18-2009, 11:16 AM

Tough timing for sure, but it could be a blessing in disguise if she's as selfish and shallow as it seems. Your BIL is in my prayers again...

**scmhogg** · 05-18-2009, 11:24 AM

Don't get me started about LOCKSMITHS. [QUOTE I think there is a special place reserved for them after they die, that is so miserably
hot and burning that the flames only get hotter and will never go out and it is waiting for them![/QUOTE]

Steve, Esq.

So mad I could spit... I just need to rant guys and gals...

So mad I could spit... I just need to rant guys and gals...

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