I'm not one to sit in front of a TV and swing my arms wildly and scream and yell when so and so catches the ball, or a basket is made. What I do get vocal about is when teens commit crimes and everybody places the blame other than where it belongs.
When I was young enough to run without falling, I was taught AT HOME, the difference between right and wrong. If I made a bad choice, my parents would set me right, one way or another. There was no in-between. By the time I got into school, I knew the difference. It was up to the school to give me an education, not to teach discipline. If I screwed up there, my parents were notified immediately, and there was resolution before I knew what hit me. Those were the times when parents were liable for the actions of their children.
I watch the news covering one of these senseless crimes where teens, and in some cases pre-teens carry guns and knives to school, and then injure or kill someone. Where are the parents? The media doesn't put their sorry faces on TV and ask them what the heck is going on. These shows that have the parents and their wayward kids mouthing off, with the "boot camp" threat is just ludicrous. They are saying they can't control their children.
Of course they can't. They waited for their teenage son to get to 220 lbs and 6'2" to try to teach them discipline. IF the parents do make a statement they blame the schools for not doing their jobs. Like it's the teachers' fault. Some of the teachers I know are afraid to go to school. I had a client that was a high school teacher and was attacked severely in the parking lot, and spent a week in the hospital.
So, where am I going with this? I really don't know. I just feel that parents are not accepting the theory that it's their job. The control and respect needed from a child has to be instilled from the time of infancy. Sounds a little far fetched, but the learning process starts at birth. Could it be that those parents didn't get the message from their parents, and so on and so on.
I don't think there is any good enough excuse for not performing parental duties. Single parent families, work schedules, or any other problematic interference only hurts the child. It's hard to believe that parents dont't get a hint from their kid's disposition or activities that there is something wrong. Maybe it's just a lack of communication.
Kids today threaten their parents that they'll "call the cops" if they get hit, or lie about it. If I said that to my father when I was a teenager, I would get hit.
My father told me at a young age that when I get to the point that I could beat his butt, I would know better not to.
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When I was young enough to run without falling, I was taught AT HOME, the difference between right and wrong. If I made a bad choice, my parents would set me right, one way or another. There was no in-between. By the time I got into school, I knew the difference. It was up to the school to give me an education, not to teach discipline. If I screwed up there, my parents were notified immediately, and there was resolution before I knew what hit me. Those were the times when parents were liable for the actions of their children.
I watch the news covering one of these senseless crimes where teens, and in some cases pre-teens carry guns and knives to school, and then injure or kill someone. Where are the parents? The media doesn't put their sorry faces on TV and ask them what the heck is going on. These shows that have the parents and their wayward kids mouthing off, with the "boot camp" threat is just ludicrous. They are saying they can't control their children.
Of course they can't. They waited for their teenage son to get to 220 lbs and 6'2" to try to teach them discipline. IF the parents do make a statement they blame the schools for not doing their jobs. Like it's the teachers' fault. Some of the teachers I know are afraid to go to school. I had a client that was a high school teacher and was attacked severely in the parking lot, and spent a week in the hospital.
So, where am I going with this? I really don't know. I just feel that parents are not accepting the theory that it's their job. The control and respect needed from a child has to be instilled from the time of infancy. Sounds a little far fetched, but the learning process starts at birth. Could it be that those parents didn't get the message from their parents, and so on and so on.
I don't think there is any good enough excuse for not performing parental duties. Single parent families, work schedules, or any other problematic interference only hurts the child. It's hard to believe that parents dont't get a hint from their kid's disposition or activities that there is something wrong. Maybe it's just a lack of communication.
Kids today threaten their parents that they'll "call the cops" if they get hit, or lie about it. If I said that to my father when I was a teenager, I would get hit.
My father told me at a young age that when I get to the point that I could beat his butt, I would know better not to.
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. Short of cruelty, physical damage, or actual trauma, parents should have more ability to rear their children as they see fit. 
LCHIEN
Loring in Katy, TX USA
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