Inappropriate

[radhak]

when kids talk, what is inappropriate?

my 9 year old tells me the other day - dad, you need to shave the hair off your chest and back; hairy does not look good... !

I was somewhat amused but did not know what to respond; LOML otoh ticked her off - that's inappropriate talk for you, young lady...

I've always allowed them to comment on my bald spot, or my (lack of) dress sense, more in a sense of discussion; of course there was this time she was seeing a weight-loss advt and proclaimed loudly - mom needs that desperately , and i had to show disapproval. Inconsistent - sure; but there's frank and there's rude. not sure if I can define it for them.

[germdoc]

If this is you:



I agree with her...

As long as kids confine shaving talk to things above the belt, IMO no problem!

[shoottx]

Or this

[master53yoda]

Grandparents activities

As a grandpa I talk with my grand kids about thinking about the affect that a comment will have on the other person. It is hard for them to understand the difference between truth or fact and opinion, and whether they should express those to other people, we also talk about respect for there elders etc.

My wife and I are currently reading Harry Potter to them partially because it brings up these kind of things and there results and gives us an opportunity to discuss there effects. My wife is from England so she picks up things in those stories that i would not pick up because of the culture difference. The kids are 10,7,and 6 we have different discussions with each child based on there understanding.

My opinion of the role of grandparents is to help there children and grand children see the world from all aspects.

[cgallery]

I'd say about 9 or 10 is the age where good moms begin to instinctively guide their daughters into being proper young ladies. That involves teaching them a sense of decorum, as well as shaping their relationship with thier father and the other adult males around them.

OTOH, perhaps your daughter was about to let it slip that mommy has for years been complaining that daddy is too hairy.

[herb fellows]

I would explain to them that before they say anything negative about anybody, they should put themselves in that persons place. If they would be insulted hearing it, then they shouldn't say it to someone else.

[Mrs. Wallnut]

I would explain to them that before they say anything negative about anybody, they should put themselves in that persons place. If they would be insulted hearing it, then they shouldn't say it to someone else.

I agree with this. I have twins, a boy and a girl, and they will be 13 next month. I always tell them that if they are going to say something they should stop and think first. Our daughter is a very sensitive girl and gets upset when she "thinks" someone doesn't like her or she thinks they are talking about her so she knows how it feels to be on the end of some of those negative comments. She is also a little taller and heavier than most of the girls in her class so she is being teased about her weight and things. I know how she feels because, well she takes after her mom . I keep trying to tell her to ignore these "mean" kids because if she shows that the comments bother her then they will take pleasure in teasing her more.

Okay I think I went a little off the topic here, sorry about that but I have tried to make sure that my kids are respectful of their elders, I always like them to call their friends parents "Mrs. or Mr.. "and the last name. Unless the other parent says its okay for them to call them by their first name. As to the OP about the comment the daughter made. We are pretty relaxed around here and as long as my kids don't tell some stranger or other person we know this to their face we don't get to bent out of shape. But IMO it is a matter of respect.