Interesting idea for all you married folks

[germdoc]

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/06/08/fa...=1&oref=slogin

I like the quote, "It fit all the criteria of a really good gift."

Personally I'm not sure I would need a daily dose. At my age recovery is a really important part of any exertional activity.

On the other hand, it's always nice to have the option. I think of this as like a good handtool. You may not use it every single day, but it's great to have when you need it. And sometimes it's the only thing that will work.

(We won't get into issues of tool addiction, AKA TAS, but the analogy would seem to hold there as well...)

[Ed62]

I used to think one in a row was good.

Ed

[cabinetman]

Too much thinkin' might affect the plinkin'.
.

[MilDoc]

What? Only once a a day?????

[gsmittle]

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/06/08/fa...=1&oref=slogin

[snip] I think of this as like a good handtool. ...[snip]

Heh.

g.

[crokett]

What'd the article say? The Times wants me to log in.

[Mrs. Wallnut]

What'd the article say? The Times wants me to log in.

It was talking about married couples having s#x. How two couples wrote books on "doing it" and how one couple went 365 days and "did it" every day and the other couple was 101, and they wrote books on their s@x life.

[Bruce Cohen]

To quote my wife "After 55, your mind is the second body part that stops working".

Bruce

[dkerfoot]

I couldn't read the article either, but there is some evidence that shows that women have a 36 hour "window" of arousal. The idea being that if you have sex every 24 hours or so, she will remain more inclined. Once that window closes, you are having to start from scratch again.

My wife and I have been married for 6 years (I am 42 and she is 45) and we actually followed this for the first four years or so of our marriage. Obviously, there is a natural inclination for newlyweds to do so. Nonetheless, I am convinced there is validity to it. It does however put a fair bit of pressure on a middle aged guy to keep up! I am still a very happy and lucky fella, but we have pared things back a bit.

I remember hearing a country song about the futility of a woman flirting with a guy in a really good relationship like that:

It'd be like givin' water to a drowning man
Tellin' Merle Haggard 'bout a one night stand
Cussin' at the devil, preachin' at the choir
Throwing a lighted match on a raging fire
My baby gives me more love than any one man can stand
It'd be like givin' water to a drowning man

[Mr__Bill]

Jeff.
I really have to ask, why are you restricting this to the married folk?

As to the registration required for NYT, why not register? It's free, it's simple and you may find some interesting reading there.

Bill, on the Sunny Oregon Coast

[germdoc]

Jeff.
I really have to ask, why are you restricting this to the married folk?

Bill, on the Sunny Oregon Coast

Because we all know marriage is like an antiaphrodisiac. If you're shacking up you can pretty much engage in extracurricular activities any time, any place. Once you put the ring on your finger--well it's like a wet shower on erotic ambitions. So to do it on a daily basis requires quite a bit of extra effort.

DAMHIKT.

[dkerfoot]

Because we all know marriage is like an antiaphrodisiac. If you're shacking up you can pretty much engage in extracurricular activities any time, any place. Once you put the ring on your finger--well it's like a wet shower on erotic ambitions.

What is interesting is that this was my experience with my first marriage. For my 2nd marriage, due to a dramatically changed world view, we didn't sleep together until our honeymoon.

Even with 4 kids between us (ages 12 - 22) things are very good between us. Oh, I actually misstated when I said we had been married 6 years - it has been 7. You know, time flies...

Having done a fair bit of informal counseling with other couples, I have observed this same pattern in other's as well. I'd love to see some research on this topic.