My 92 year old MIL is in what once was her house with my SIL. After much thought, prayer, talks among the family, the pastor of our church and not much sleep the past two weeks, LOML called the County Elder Abuse Hotline this afternoon and started a case aginst her sister for not taking care of their Mother. The past two weeks we have tried to talk to the SIL to no avail and the topper was today when SIL was going to go to Reno with her Girlfriend to a show and leave MIL alone untill Friday afternoon without letting any one know.
SIL is 51 and has good job she has lived at home for the past 20 years and with out our knowledge has put the house in her name, as gotten power of attorney and has control of MIL assets such as they are. The living conditions have become unbarable as the house is dirty with stuff all over the place, it smells no stincks and I don't when the last time MIL bed linen has been changed. MIL is expect to do the laundry, and cook and this a somewhat frail 92 year old who is going down hill. She stopped going to church last November using a lot of different excuses but the real reason was SIL was to Lazy to get up get MIL up dressed and hair done so we could pick her up and take he to church. SIL is trying to blame her sisters for the problems and for not comming over and helping take care of MIL. We probably should have done someting sooner but hope things will change and get better well they haven't and now the **** has hit the fan. MIL is going to with us over to the other SIL house for dinner and to spend the night. While there my BIL and I going video the house and take pictures of the condition of the house. That program on Ophra about hoarding is what did it for LOML she finially saw the light. We are going to try and get custody and prower of attorney and MIL will split time between LOML and the other SIL. My MIL has be shut off from almost all social contact she used to have and has withdrawn into a shell and become totally dependent of her supposed caretaker. So now it is out of our hands and in the Countys which is not the most comforting feeling but it had to be done. Hopefully the Social Woker will listen to us and use some common sence but you never know that is the scary part. We need the power of attorney so we can talk to her various Doctors and find out just what is going on with her health. The 4 of us are retired and can devote what ever time is need to help MIL and get her going again and we feel she is not as bad off as the SIL makes out. We figure the house is gone and we really don't care about that, we care about MIL and the quality of the rest of her time. We are all very upset with what LOML and her sister were forced to do but ther was nothing else that could be done. We thought about just going over and getting her and moving her in with one of us but SIL would have filed charges so this way she has to deal with the county and wont' beable to snow them with her lies. Rant off
thanks for listening now off to dinner and the Woodwork Show with BIL tomorrow and Saturday. I will be in Idaho next weeek taking care the grandkids while mom and dad are in Texas working at the Byron Nelson Golf Classic. The kids wanted a projects so we are going to build Pine Car Derby cars and I will turn some pens.
Tom
SIL is 51 and has good job she has lived at home for the past 20 years and with out our knowledge has put the house in her name, as gotten power of attorney and has control of MIL assets such as they are. The living conditions have become unbarable as the house is dirty with stuff all over the place, it smells no stincks and I don't when the last time MIL bed linen has been changed. MIL is expect to do the laundry, and cook and this a somewhat frail 92 year old who is going down hill. She stopped going to church last November using a lot of different excuses but the real reason was SIL was to Lazy to get up get MIL up dressed and hair done so we could pick her up and take he to church. SIL is trying to blame her sisters for the problems and for not comming over and helping take care of MIL. We probably should have done someting sooner but hope things will change and get better well they haven't and now the **** has hit the fan. MIL is going to with us over to the other SIL house for dinner and to spend the night. While there my BIL and I going video the house and take pictures of the condition of the house. That program on Ophra about hoarding is what did it for LOML she finially saw the light. We are going to try and get custody and prower of attorney and MIL will split time between LOML and the other SIL. My MIL has be shut off from almost all social contact she used to have and has withdrawn into a shell and become totally dependent of her supposed caretaker. So now it is out of our hands and in the Countys which is not the most comforting feeling but it had to be done. Hopefully the Social Woker will listen to us and use some common sence but you never know that is the scary part. We need the power of attorney so we can talk to her various Doctors and find out just what is going on with her health. The 4 of us are retired and can devote what ever time is need to help MIL and get her going again and we feel she is not as bad off as the SIL makes out. We figure the house is gone and we really don't care about that, we care about MIL and the quality of the rest of her time. We are all very upset with what LOML and her sister were forced to do but ther was nothing else that could be done. We thought about just going over and getting her and moving her in with one of us but SIL would have filed charges so this way she has to deal with the county and wont' beable to snow them with her lies. Rant off
thanks for listening now off to dinner and the Woodwork Show with BIL tomorrow and Saturday. I will be in Idaho next weeek taking care the grandkids while mom and dad are in Texas working at the Byron Nelson Golf Classic. The kids wanted a projects so we are going to build Pine Car Derby cars and I will turn some pens.
Tom
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